Mother’s Day Weekend Recap- May 13, 2017


How did you spend your Mother’s Day weekend?


As usual, my weekend was a flurry of activity.

Because I knew Saturday and Sunday were going to be busy, I relaxed Friday after work. I really don’t do that often.

Early Saturday morning found me searching frantically for Shyla’s baton uniform. I had it hanging in her closet. After 20 minutes of searching I found it under the bunk beds in her brothers’ room. I have no idea how it got there. But, despite the lost uniform, my group of travelers arrived at their destination on time, which was a 3 hour drive.

Legs of woman standing on tiptoe on stepladder with paint can and painted wall.

Next on my agenda was to finish painting my bedroom. I only had about 1/4 of the room to complete which I did. After the painting was finish and the painting tools were cleaned, I took a bucket of Mr. Clean water and cleaned the top of the dressers and the bed. My dressers are very tall as is the headboard of my bed so I have to have the painting ladder to reach the top of the furniture. I also cleaned the fan. My bedroom has been spring cleaned. On to the rest of the house.


We took turns going to see play this weekend. His mother and our oldest daughter with her family, went to watch him perform Friday evening. Saturday,  my husband went to the afternoon performance.

The others had gone on the baton trip to an amusement park.

I went on Saturday evening. For the final performance, my husband and I went and took Dylan’s two siblings. Zayden could not sit still so papa took him and went back home.

After the final performance Sunday afternoon, Dylan, Shyla, and I stopped to buy flowers for my mother-in-law and myself. We took them home and had about 1/2 hour at home before we left to attend the cast party. It was held in the pavilion at the art colony. The weather was perfect and all the kids really enjoyed themselves. Pizza, cupcakes and ice cream was served and prizes were given out.

Dylan won 4 tickets to a Cinncinatti Red’s baseball game. He was beside himself with excitement.

Mom showed up from work and took the kids with her while my husband and I ran to complete some errands.

Later that evening my girls showed up at the house with a beautiful climbing flower and trellis for me.


It was a great weekend.




What was your Mother’s Day weekend like?

My life verse.


Troublemaker by Leah Remini

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For quite awhile now I have wondered about the theology and beliefs behind Scientology. All I “knew” was it was based on the assumption that we had come from an alien. I know that explanation is more simplified than it really is.

Then actors whose work I admired became mixed up with religion. People like John Travolta, Tom Cruize, and Kirstie Alley. I really wanted to know more about their beliefs and what attracked them to a religion that I perceived as a cult. It was on one of the blogs that I was reading early on that there was a short book review of Leah Remini’s book, Troublemakerthat enticed me to get the Audible version of this book.

One afternoon as I was waiting for one of the grandkids that I turned on the book. First of all. let me say, it has taken me quite some time to adjust myself to listening to a book instead of reading a paper version. As I began listening it was evident to me that I could only listen to this book when there were no children present. It is filled with language that could have been left out and still have the basis of the book would have still made its mark.

Leah Remini explains how her mother became a member of the church, bringing with her Leah and her sister. Although family units were often encouraged to become followers of the church, as units they were often separated into different working stations. I’m still at a loss of how a mother could allow this, but I am also not sure how brainwashing works.

Scientology became Leah’s and her family’s life. She talks about the countless hours parishoners were subjected to completing minial tasks and studies. Not only is the majority of their waking hours devoted to the church, parishoners are required to “donate” large sums of money. Those that do not have to funds readily available are urged to acquire credit cards and other various means to fund the church. Leah goes on to say that many members become bandrupt while contributing to Scientology.

Woven throughout the internal workings of Scientology, Leah unfolds the story of her journey to become an actress. It was an interesting journey where she led us through some of her worst times as a struggling actress.

I found this book and interesting read. (listen) If you can endure the offensive language, I would reccommend this book. It opened my eyes a little more into the Scientology and how someone can be so dubbed into believing in a cult.

My life verse.



“It is what it is.”


It is what it is

I was asked today, “What is your Motto?” I thought of all kinds of great quotes by great people. “If you can believe, you can achieve.”  by Sophie Turner is another one that came to mind.  However, my thoughts lingered on the quite overused phrase “It is What it is.”

After reading an article by Liane Gabora Ph.D. entitled, The Hidden Meaning of  “It is What It Is”,  I began searching for the meaning behind why this phrase would be like a song stuck in my head.
Dr. Gabora suggests that “It is what it is” has more to its meaning than: being somewhere in the middle and not being able to place a word to it. The phrase reiterates a complacency that doesn’t categorize the situation into some form of good or bad but just an acceptance for what is. This suggests a certain comfort; yet, it could be so much more.

Are you contented with your life?

First, “It is What it is.” is a way of thinking about the world and environments that we live in. It’s a tool that one can use to conceptualize their situation. By accepting all that facts and not taking sides as to the goodness of the situation, adopting this phrase allows for the situation to not cause harm to oneself or others. It isn’t necessarily what we agree with it or how we would choose things to be; therefore, if we like it or not … It is just what it is.

It is what is

For example, my son (who is 18, over 6 feet tall) came home from school last week and announced that after an inspection the school is now only allowed to provide one pop tart instead of two. Now if we looked at the facts of the situation and the events that led up to this situation we would understand why my son was told this. However the facts are just that so “It is what it is” All the events lead up to this moment in time and even though the ‘goodness’ of the situation could be debated and even though he wasn’t in agreement with the situation, the phrase calms the aggravation of it all.

Dr. Gabora noted that the use of the phrase of resistance of putting things into categories or that it is an acceptance of ambiguity. In this sense, one could create a richer self and not be stuck in the way things are. If it isn’t that and it isn’t this then we can accept that there isn’t a box for it. This belief would coincide with abstract thinkers and creative minds.



Oh well

Yet, others feel like the phrase is a “… resignation, a sense of acceptance that something isn’t up to par.” In these cases, “It is what it is” could leave one with a feeling of complacency, sadness, or   negative thoughts about the possiblities. One could begin to believe they are stuck and that the situation can’t be changed or reframed.
I think that “It is what it is” is a static phrase that should be used in context. I find that this phrase comes to my mind because I recognize that I am on a path. I am complacent on my journey,  that I have come to a place that I didn’t think I would be, on my way to where I want to go (even if I am unsure where that will take me.) The phrase captures not only the lack of progress and dissatisfaction of the current state of my life but also includes the progress and satisfaction of the place that I have arrived at in my life. Therefore, it makes a great life motto as I hope to always be in this journey where the only destination for me is heaven.

Let’s hear your Life Motto …. What does “It is what it is” mean to you?

By Amanda Brumfield

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding. Acknowledge him in all your ways, and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:5-6