Weekend recap-March 13, 2017

What are some of things that you did this past weekend?

My number one priority on weekends is to catch up on laundry. As a full time teacher, much of my work week is spent away from home. As the caregiver of a large family I often feel buried under mounds of dirty clothes.


2. After the grandkids finished making slime, I had to give the kitchen a good scrubbing.  Spring cleaning got a boost.

3. I managed to finish a craft project for my daughter-in-law.

4. Did a lot of house cleaning.


What hat did you accomplish over the weekend?

Hilary’s Story


                                              Has your family been effected gby the drug epidemic?


My youngest daughter wrote this excerpt on her facebook page recently.

“My journey in recovery has been a tough one. I’ve been an addict since I was 15 years old I’ve had a lot of ups and downs. Periods of abstinence and sobriety but more time with using. I was selfish, manipulative, and trying to fill a void within me with everything under the sun. I’ve had 5 hospital overdoses. One consisted of me being on a ventilator and in a coma ( that was the very first one), the very last o’d was the one that scared me the worse. I didn’t start breathing again until my 6th shot of narcan at the E.R. But that still didn’t stop me. I had gotten worse than I had ever been. I was pushing 95lbs and absolutely miserable. I almost welcomed the idea of death. I was physically, mentally, and spiritually broken. This is when God was finally able to do something with me. I had hit my bottom. Only by Gods strength was I able to make it to a detox where I began my road to healing. God is absolutely amazing!!!! I know that He’s got big plans for me!!! I can feel it deep down inside me like a fire getting ready to explode or a fountain that overflows with water constantly!!!! You see, I was a hopeless, sick, cocaine and heroin IV user who couldn’t stand myself. Today I’m a beautiful, healthy, intelligent child of God who is extremely thankful for what I’ve made it through. Don’t let Satan tell you those lies. God loves you and is waiting for you!! He wants that close relationship with his children!!! I love my Lord!!! #soberlife #sobriety #amazinggrace #onedayatatime #letitgo #humbleyourself #recovery #addiction #grateful”



Illegal drug use and addiction has become an epidemic in this country, if not world wide. According to http://www.drugwarfacts.org/cms/Drug_Usage#sthash.6NwLjZQR.dpbs, 27.1 people aged 12 and older had “used” within the last 30 days.  Yes, I said age 12.  It was reported that drug overdoses was the leading cause of death in the same year. And that number continues to rise.

So, it is not unlikely that this epidemic has touched your family in some way. You may know someone who is addicted, know the family of someone who is addicted, or are in the immediate family of an addicted person. I fall into all 3 categories.

Hilary was born on May 29, 1985. She was our miracle baby. I had 2 older daughters, but it had taken me approximately 4 years to conceive this one.  From the minute she was born, she was the perfect child, never causing problems. As she grew, it was obvious that she had a wild sense of humor and her peers flocked around her.

We were very close as she was growing up. I remember one evening when we were attending a Girl Scout mother and daughter banquet. The girls were asked what their mothers did that aggravated them. This was all done in good humor. When it got to Hilary’s turn, she calmly told the group that I didn’t do anything that aggravated her.   We never argued and had any problems.  I never could have imagined the problems that would arise later in her life.



The purpose behind this series is to offer hope and support for those families that are dealing with the devastation that a family endures when one is addicted.

First Impressions



I’ll have to admit that I’m confused by the studies that say students who dress in sweats do better in school because they are more comfortable.  Also, along the same lines,  I have numerous friends who like to stay in their pj’s when they are not going out and manage to get a lot done around the house.  I am not one of those people. I have to get dressed before I can start the day’s activities. The only time I stay in my pj’s is when I’m too sick to get out of bed.

Not that I get “dressed up”, but I at least put on my jeans and a top, brush my hair and teeth before I can even begin to think about doing anything.  I was not raised to stay in pajamas the whole day. We got up, ate breakfast, and started our day. I realize times have changed, but I often wonder if all the changes are for the better.

What is the first thing that you look at when you meet someone? Is it their eyes, hair, clothing, facial expressions, or clothing. Many will say they do not judge people by first impressions, but we all do to some extent.  Furthermore, we never know who we will see or run into when we out and about.  “You never get a second chance to make a first impression. ” Will Rodgers

It is not only our appearance that helps make that first impression, It only takes 6 seconds for a person to analyze someone by their appearance, body language, demeanor, mannerisms, and clothing. What type of impression do you want to make vs. the impression that you do make?

How many times have we seen the videos of people dressed in various strange attire at Walmart? What has been your first impression of these people? (You don’t need to answer that.) That initial first impression will stay with those people and you for a lifetime.  This also brings to mind a pet peeve of mine. I do not like to see people wearing their pajamas out in public.  In my opinion, pajamas are clothing to wear in the privacy of your home.


I recently went to a jewelry party. It was one of those parties where you buy things and the hostess gets part of her order at a reduced amount. The demonstrator was very knowledge about her topic and showed the guests how to accessorize a plain outfit with jewelry. Her demonstrations were fantastic and she made a lot of good points. Now, I like jewelry, but since that party and her comments, I have been wearing a little more. As she said, it makes for a more completed appearance and when we feel good about ourselves, we portray that confidence to those we encounter.

When I was in graduate school, I had a professor who told us to dress as if we were going to an interview the next day.  He would not tell us the reason except it was going to be a very important day.  When we came to class the next day this professor introduced a concept to us that has followed me through 20+ years of teaching. Because it was so important, he had us dress up. That experience and lesson will never be forgotten.

Personally, I don’t wear sweatpants, sweatshirts, or T-shirts. I don’t have anything against them, I just don’t like them on me.  When I have had them on I just feel slouchy and when I feel that way I don’t get much done. Now I’m not saying I wear good clothes for everything. I have old, holey jeans that i wear when painting and doing dirty work. But I’m at home and not out in public.

Think about yourself and the way in which you present yourself. Not just your attire, but the way in which people perceive you. Are you friendly, happy, do you have a smile on your face? Do your mannerisms coincide with your inward feelings? Are  you approachable? As you go throughout your day, take stock of your attitude at any given moment of the day. It will be  portrayed in your mannerisms and overall demeanor.

“It is nearly impossible to reverse or undo the first impression.” unknown