I’ll have to admit that I’m confused by the studies that say students who dress in sweats do better in school because they are more comfortable. Also, along the same lines, I have numerous friends who like to stay in their pj’s when they are not going out and manage to get a lot done around the house. I am not one of those people. I have to get dressed before I can start the day’s activities. The only time I stay in my pj’s is when I’m too sick to get out of bed.
Not that I get “dressed up”, but I at least put on my jeans and a top, brush my hair and teeth before I can even begin to think about doing anything. I was not raised to stay in pajamas the whole day. We got up, ate breakfast, and started our day. I realize times have changed, but I often wonder if all the changes are for the better.
What is the first thing that you look at when you meet someone? Is it their eyes, hair, clothing, facial expressions, or clothing. Many will say they do not judge people by first impressions, but we all do to some extent. Furthermore, we never know who we will see or run into when we out and about. “You never get a second chance to make a first impression. ” Will Rodgers
It is not only our appearance that helps make that first impression, It only takes 6 seconds for a person to analyze someone by their appearance, body language, demeanor, mannerisms, and clothing. What type of impression do you want to make vs. the impression that you do make?
How many times have we seen the videos of people dressed in various strange attire at Walmart? What has been your first impression of these people? (You don’t need to answer that.) That initial first impression will stay with those people and you for a lifetime. This also brings to mind a pet peeve of mine. I do not like to see people wearing their pajamas out in public. In my opinion, pajamas are clothing to wear in the privacy of your home.
I recently went to a jewelry party. It was one of those parties where you buy things and the hostess gets part of her order at a reduced amount. The demonstrator was very knowledge about her topic and showed the guests how to accessorize a plain outfit with jewelry. Her demonstrations were fantastic and she made a lot of good points. Now, I like jewelry, but since that party and her comments, I have been wearing a little more. As she said, it makes for a more completed appearance and when we feel good about ourselves, we portray that confidence to those we encounter.
When I was in graduate school, I had a professor who told us to dress as if we were going to an interview the next day. He would not tell us the reason except it was going to be a very important day. When we came to class the next day this professor introduced a concept to us that has followed me through 20+ years of teaching. Because it was so important, he had us dress up. That experience and lesson will never be forgotten.
Personally, I don’t wear sweatpants, sweatshirts, or T-shirts. I don’t have anything against them, I just don’t like them on me. When I have had them on I just feel slouchy and when I feel that way I don’t get much done. Now I’m not saying I wear good clothes for everything. I have old, holey jeans that i wear when painting and doing dirty work. But I’m at home and not out in public.
Think about yourself and the way in which you present yourself. Not just your attire, but the way in which people perceive you. Are you friendly, happy, do you have a smile on your face? Do your mannerisms coincide with your inward feelings? Are you approachable? As you go throughout your day, take stock of your attitude at any given moment of the day. It will be portrayed in your mannerisms and overall demeanor.
“It is nearly impossible to reverse or undo the first impression.” unknown