First Impressions

 

 

I’ll have to admit that I’m confused by the studies that say students who dress in sweats do better in school because they are more comfortable.  Also, along the same lines,  I have numerous friends who like to stay in their pj’s when they are not going out and manage to get a lot done around the house.  I am not one of those people. I have to get dressed before I can start the day’s activities. The only time I stay in my pj’s is when I’m too sick to get out of bed.

Not that I get “dressed up”, but I at least put on my jeans and a top, brush my hair and teeth before I can even begin to think about doing anything.  I was not raised to stay in pajamas the whole day. We got up, ate breakfast, and started our day. I realize times have changed, but I often wonder if all the changes are for the better.

What is the first thing that you look at when you meet someone? Is it their eyes, hair, clothing, facial expressions, or clothing. Many will say they do not judge people by first impressions, but we all do to some extent.  Furthermore, we never know who we will see or run into when we out and about.  “You never get a second chance to make a first impression. ” Will Rodgers

It is not only our appearance that helps make that first impression, It only takes 6 seconds for a person to analyze someone by their appearance, body language, demeanor, mannerisms, and clothing. What type of impression do you want to make vs. the impression that you do make?

How many times have we seen the videos of people dressed in various strange attire at Walmart? What has been your first impression of these people? (You don’t need to answer that.) That initial first impression will stay with those people and you for a lifetime.  This also brings to mind a pet peeve of mine. I do not like to see people wearing their pajamas out in public.  In my opinion, pajamas are clothing to wear in the privacy of your home.

 

I recently went to a jewelry party. It was one of those parties where you buy things and the hostess gets part of her order at a reduced amount. The demonstrator was very knowledge about her topic and showed the guests how to accessorize a plain outfit with jewelry. Her demonstrations were fantastic and she made a lot of good points. Now, I like jewelry, but since that party and her comments, I have been wearing a little more. As she said, it makes for a more completed appearance and when we feel good about ourselves, we portray that confidence to those we encounter.

When I was in graduate school, I had a professor who told us to dress as if we were going to an interview the next day.  He would not tell us the reason except it was going to be a very important day.  When we came to class the next day this professor introduced a concept to us that has followed me through 20+ years of teaching. Because it was so important, he had us dress up. That experience and lesson will never be forgotten.

Personally, I don’t wear sweatpants, sweatshirts, or T-shirts. I don’t have anything against them, I just don’t like them on me.  When I have had them on I just feel slouchy and when I feel that way I don’t get much done. Now I’m not saying I wear good clothes for everything. I have old, holey jeans that i wear when painting and doing dirty work. But I’m at home and not out in public.

Think about yourself and the way in which you present yourself. Not just your attire, but the way in which people perceive you. Are you friendly, happy, do you have a smile on your face? Do your mannerisms coincide with your inward feelings? Are  you approachable? As you go throughout your day, take stock of your attitude at any given moment of the day. It will be  portrayed in your mannerisms and overall demeanor.

“It is nearly impossible to reverse or undo the first impression.” unknown

 

 

Full Disclosure by Dee Henderson

 

From the time several years ago and continuing today,  Dee Henderson has become one of my favorite authors. This book met my expectations of a great story line and with her skills as an author.

Like many of her previous novels that I have read, this one interlaced  characters from previous novels into the threads of her plot. This gave me, as the reader, a feeling of familiarity which drew me into the book.

The book centers around Paul Falcon and Ann Silver, two law enforcement officers. Paul soon falls in love with Ann and is determined to win her over despite her hesitation to become involved with anyone.  However, the cases that both of them are working on keep drawing them together.

Ann is a mysterious woman who is hiding her own secrets and it is hard for her to trust anyone enough to divulge those to anyone. This is the biggest obstacle that keeps the two apart.

Not only is the book a love story between these two, but it is a murder mystery that keeps the reader guessing and surprised at the end. I highly recommend this book.

 

 

Do you feel burnt out?

 

 

Have those of you, including myself, who work outside of the home experienced work burn out? I heard this questions on the radio as I was coming into work one morning. The hosts of the program were discussing work burnout. They went on to explain that this did not mean that you did not like your job, but you were just tired.

I could really empathize with their questions and comments. I feel I have the best job in the world and could not ever see myself doing anything different. I am a special education teacher. I love my job, but after 20+ years I am more than ready to retire. I think I would not be so frustrated if I could go home and unwind in a quiet house, but that is not the case. My husband and I have a daughter and her 3 young children living with us. Our house is in constant turmoil that accompanies a household with younger children. When I was younger and fresh into the teaching world that did not bother me. But as I get older, I feel as if I “run out of steam more quickly.” By the time I get home I am exhausted. But there is often still a day’s worth of housework to be done.

 

Over the last several years, I have begun to craft and sew quite a bit, which has worked its way into a small side business. I am approached frequently with requests to make something for someone and I usually say yes. I do get paid. This is what I want to do now, plus blog. I would like to just work out of home, but with my teaching responsibilities that is not feasible for two more years. I do have my retirement date set.

While I am still working outside of the home I have to learn to say “no” to requests that infringe on my time. Have you felt that when you are at home people think you don’t have anything to do or you are not busy? I have a large family that all live relatively close, which means we all rely on one another and that’s a good thing. However, there are times I have allotted for me crafting, sewing, or writing and often the demands of family will have to take first place. This is normal.

But like myself, I am sure you say no to very little requests on your time. Over the years, I have learned to say “no” more often. I no longer am involved with things like PTO and 4-H organizations although I’m still involved with my grandchildren’s school. Yes, I will help where ever I can, but I will no longer take on a leader’s role and responsibility like I did when my own children were younger. I will chose the activities that I involve myself in with great care so as to only involve myself in those things that give me pleasure and are of importance to myself and my family. I refuse to continue to  overwhelm myself with responsibilities that I really do not want to do.

Kathryn of How does She Do It? said, “Because when you never say”no”, you lose the freedom to say “yes” to the things that really matter. ”